You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time.
Equivocation. It is a trait every single one of us would have leaned on to when we get into shit. People often tend to refrain from accusations framing them to have equivocated at least a few times in their lives. Not a trait of the proud, but certainly not a less important one. People vary in size, shapes, as well as traits. Some deserve the second chance everyone yearns for, whereas there is always a class of outcasts who just deserve to be called you lying piece of shit. Sorry for being blunt, but all of us, at some point of our pretty, little lives come up with some horrendous lies. Ones which burns our insides with guilt.
Why is it that the humans opt to lie as a solution in case they get into trouble? Instincts, I suppose. Some of you might stop and say Hey! Not everyone lies. As always, I would still say most of us do. We do resort to lying rather than speaking the truth out. I may be young, inexperienced, and not the smartest guy around, but I do know that lying actually does not get you that far. You lie at first, then to cover that up you lie another hundred times. It escalates to such an extent that you forget why you lied in the first place. Then later comes the guilt, it gains on you slowly, starting from your stomach all the way up your throat to finally make you blurt out the truth. Also, there is another set of us who just swallow it all back into our gut and asks the inner guy to just STFU and play cool.
As kids, we grow up watching everyone lie around us. It starts off with the confusing winks that adults exchange when they say that school is going to be great when you have a bad haircut on you. It gets worse as you enter your undergrad when they tell you that you have worked your hardest and the next few years are going to be even easier. It continues to get even worse when you realize the entire media is rigged along with the governments you vote for. As time flies by like the blink of an eye, you too are a part of this much-corrupted world saying things you need not have to, yet doing so to survive. Even though we realize what we are doing is not right, why do we still do it? One simple answer- it is too damn easy.
I have come across people of all shapes and sizes. Me being the naive self, have been taken advantage of in many ways and sometimes I have just given in thinking they might have a dire reason that drove them to do those things. I have confronted most of them saying it was wrong on their part and they have hurt my feelings by doing that. When I think about it, I do not feel sad anymore. Happy rather. Happy to know that I was the bigger man and walked away from them without hurting them in return. Although I do feel bad about one small thing now. I gave them the leverage to pull out such a stunt and put my relationship with a few others at risk. I hate the fact that no matter what I do, my conscience finds it hard to let go of instances that have left my loved ones restless and hurt. A lie is always a lie. White or not, it always has a consequence when the truth comes out from the dark.
A small confession to make – I do lie still. I do it only when it does not hurt anyone in the process. According to my opinion, sometimes humans prefer to hear the lie than the truth. As we all know, truth hurts when it is spoken out bluntly. In most scenarios, it just seems like the hardest thing to do. When we do speak the truth people tend to get hurt the most, but with time even that pain fades away. Truth be told, I find it hard to sleep at night if I know that I lied to someone just to get things done in my way. It is even harder when you expect another person to portray the same sincerity and honesty that you show in getting shit done for them. It saddens me, obviously, but I have learned to redeem myself of petty things like those. So my advice to live without breaking another one’s heart is simple, be honest to three people in your life – your doctor, your lawyer, and your life partner. At the end of your day, you will realize that I have saved you a great deal of trouble and given you a great way to sleep at night.
There is beauty in truth, even if it’s painful. Those who lie, twist life so that it looks tasty to the lazy, brilliant to the ignorant, and powerful to the weak. But lies only strengthen our defects. They don’t teach anything, help anything, fix anything or cure anything. Nor do they develop one’s character, one’s mind, one’s heart or one’s soul.