I have a loyalty that runs in my bloodstream, when I lock into someone or something, you can’t get me away from it because I commit that thoroughly. That’s in friendship, that’s a deal, that’s a commitment. Don’t give me paper – I can get the same lawyer who drew it up to break it. But if you shake my hand, that’s for life.
Fidelity. Inherited by birth or acquired through experiences? Some consider it as a trait that is instilled into us through the right companions and life experiences. While the others view it as a behavioural instinct found in selected individuals since their existence. Whatever the scenario may be, being loyal is, according to me, a choice we all have to make at some point in our life. May it be your family or friend, relationships cry for loyalty. It is the foundation that is laid down to the birth of any relationship. Without loyalty, even the greatest nation could fall and crumble.
The most digital, technologically frisked generation that has ever befallen on mankind is what 21st century is. In many ways, it has made our lives much simpler and less tiring. However, Newton’s third law quotes that every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Likewise, although the technology has had a positive impact on our society, it too has some drawbacks. The society we live in now has lost its reality factor. Every form of being social with people is now virtual. Somewhere between all these thick vines of the digital era lies the true social agenda. The times when one actually had to go up to people and meet them, rather than sending them a friend request because he/she happened to be a friend’s friend. Which scenario do you suppose has the most probability of the existence of loyalty? The person you happened to meet in person or the random stranger you just poked on facebook? Pretty obvious, isn’t it?
One does not wake up one fine morning and decide to be loyal to someone. It demands pure love, care, dedication, and commitment to that person. Not only that, it happens from within us. Fidelity is that kind of a trait that cannot be taught or mentored upon by guides or advice. It is more of a self-taught manner that holds every single relationship on this planet together. The chance of two people bearing each other for more than a year implies there is a factor of trust that binds everything in between them together. It is not a twist of fate or destiny that holds a relationship together, but loyalty to one another.
People refer to dogs as man’s best friend. They may not be as smart as a human being, but they do take loyalty pretty darn seriously. People who enjoy being around them will know how true my previous statement is. Studies have proven scientifically that no matter how much a dog is abused by its master, they are not programmed to hate them. No matter what you do to offend and hurt it, their loyalty remains to only you. God made them as an example to make us, humans, watch and learn a thing or two about fidelity from these speechless poodles. There are times when we would expect our fellow beings to express a tiny hint of loyalty, and all they end up doing is sticking a knife on your back and be a jerk. There were times when I did wish some people were better off as mongrels.
I cannot assure that I have been completely loyal to each and every individual I came across in my life till date. There were times when I was the stabber and the jerk. Nobody learns without creating errors in their programmes. What matters is how soon you learn to debug it. Loyalty is taking one for the team when your leader needs to be out there and a sacrifice has to be made to protect him. Loyalty is correcting your pal’s wrongs and helping him look towards the right. Loyalty is taking the blame on yourself rather than having your siblings take the heat from your parents for their actions. Loyalty is what drives us to love one another and make things happen around us together. Without its existence, the world would be in the chaotic, dark ages forever. The fire that ignites a poor man’s hut comes from a single lamp. Likewise, loyalty is the spark that makes us outstride our limits to overcome our phobias just for the sake of making someone else’s life worth it. It is the most selfless act of nature. So, if you do wish to keep your loved ones in your life, intact and unhurt, there is just one mantra to abide by – stay loyal forever, and no harm shall befall you.
Blood makes you related, loyalty makes you family.