Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.
The only thing life stands to offer you honestly are choices. To do things in either of the two ways- the right way or the wrong. The outcome, once we plunge ourselves, is directly proportional to the choice we make. Fate does not warn us of these outcomes nor does it make us realize what we have done falls in which category unless we start bearing the gifts that follow our action. We, as humans, are expected to learn from our flaws. We owe our ability to differentiate our strengths and flaws to the evolution that commenced from the times of our forefathers. In order to understand fate, we need to dive a bit deeper.
As most of us know how unpredictable life is, it might not come as a surprise that fate plays a huge role in providing life with that flare of excitement. One can never say that they are bound by fate which is why they are where they are in life as of today. We as individuals should learn to understand the way fate works. People talk about serendipity and vicissitude like it’s something rare and ethereal. But it is not. The former is when anything good happens to you by chance and the latter is when bad shit happens to you by the same probability of chance as the former. What I am pointing out here is that, whichever way we evaluate our life, we can come to a conclusion that fate acts in two ways- good or bad.
Life makes us fall and gives us the power to rise up again and again. Fate plots everything that is meant to happen even before we seize upon it. Whenever we blame our gods or our damned luck on things not working out the way we intended them to, the only force in play is our fate. We all have our serendipitous moments like when we happen to win a lottery, or when we meet a friend after many years, or even when we get an unexpected bonus from work. We also have our vicissitudinous instances where we lose our savings through bad investments or get robbed, or even lose one of our loved ones. Fate does not make it easy for us to live by without experiencing both sides of the coin. It makes us stop in our tracks and think what the consequences are before we act. In a way, it prepares us to be strong when reality hits us.
Some of us often confuse fate with destiny. They are very different once you understand them. Fate is a predetermined course which your life takes no matter what your actions are. It is never in your control. Whereas, destiny is a set of predetermined events that happen in your life which actively shapes your life’s purpose. Whatever situations you are put in during your life, fate takes a toll on them by deciding where you should land. But at the end of it all, your life is headed towards a certain destination. An asylum of sorts. A refugee camp. We call this as destiny. It drives each one of us to believe that no matter how hard the road ahead is, we keep moving through the storm, fighting through it all, to breathe in the freedom at the end of the road.
It is fate that puts you in these tight and weird situations. It is fate that you fight against when you lose your battles. It is fate that you can honestly blame for all the suffering you go through. No matter how dark the room gets around you, never lose sight of your destination. It may be fate that controls the steering wheel, but it is you who accelerates your ride. One will always get what he was destined for from the very beginning. No one can ever change that. Not you. Not me. Not anyone.
Destiny is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.