Grudges are for those who insist that they are owed something; forgiveness, however, is for those who are substantial enough to move on.
Forget and forgive. As easy as it may sound, we all know how hard it is to actually move on from situations others put you in. Every second you live on this earth, you are bound to run into situations where you are wronged by others for reasons so selfish that people tend to forget they are hurting others in the process of living. To be able to not hold a grudge with people would be inhuman but letting it go as quickly as you develop it is maturity.
Finding oneself in midst of challenging situations where forgiving someone is not the easy route out can be quite exhausting and strenuous. We all have our share of feuds with psychopathic hypocrites who manipulate, deceive, and toy with our emotions without showing any signs of compassion. By referring to such personnel as psychopathic hypocrites, I do not wish to entice the negative aura around myself. The reference seemed apt considering the emotions that makes one come up with such conclusions to describe these wrongful ones. Let it be your ex’s, your colleagues or posers you called friends who used you for your valuable expertise, or even your distant relatives who claimed to be your dear ones when you succeed and still remain distant in time of plight, every one of these people are to be forgiven. No matter how bad their sins were. No matter how hard you cried that night.
How would have life been if your parents never forgave you for the times you broke their trust? Or the time you hurt your sibling? Or the time when you threw a stone at your dog for his mischiefs? Forgiveness comes from even the smallest of creatures. It is said forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it. This particular quote reflects how forgiving others for their sins makes you the custodian of a big heart. It is never easy to let go. There comes a day when you have to choose between forgiving or continuing to hold on to your childish grudge. It is always easier to break things, mending it back is hard. Same applies to relationships. Throwing away an acquaintance over a trivial squabble that happened light years ago is not worth living with at the end of the day. While forgiving, that person not only shows the divinity in them but also proves they are human.
As I write this today, I think about the people I came across through all my life. There were times when I thought I would never be able to close the hatchet over many instances that made me lose myself over the years. Life teaches us during every turn that people can change over time. It never is for the worst. We as humans only evolve to become what we were designated to be from the time we were born. I have been mad at people for manipulating me. We all come across a set of society who make us hate for being naive. It happens to everyone, the difference being everyone has a different time frame to evolve past it and get stronger.
Be patient and brace yourselves to reach that particular time frame to realize it is not worth holding grudges. I took twenty-three years to find the truth. Forgiving does not weaken you. The only thing it does is redeem yourself from a cold heart. Let your personality stand out in a crowd of negativity. Realize and preach how to forgive. Get on with life and let bygones be bygones. The day you do that is the day you are born again into this world as an innocent baby.
True forgiveness is when you can say, “Thank you for that experience”.